Frank Lee

The following are my takes on a number of excerpts from Hannah's article, which you can find here .   “She was not responding to danger so much as experimenting with a social move, shifting into vulnerability, redirecting attention, and casting herself as the endangered girl for whom adults must intervene. Her father, being very sensitive to fake displays of emotion, recognised it immediately and shut it down calmly but firmly.” This is a textbook case of emotional abuse. Hannah determined that the emotions of her young daughter were fake and intended to manipulate. Children are born as a clean slate and completely innocent. They aren’t born as manipulators. Hannah and her husband are the emotionally abusive ones, because they are the ones who predetermined that their daughter's emotions were fake and shut them down, instead of doing the right thing, which would've been to allow their child to express and communicate its emotions. “What moments like this reveal is how quick...

I disagree with the way meditation is taught, which I see as a form of severely conditional self-love. The way meditation is generally taught is to start by placing one's focus on the meditation-object, usually the breath. If one's focus then wanders and ends up on something else, one is taught to redirect one's focus back to the breath and restart. An analogy for what you're doing to yourself when you meditate like this is the following: Imagine you have a child that you want to become a professional basketball player (child - focus, basketball - breath). You tell your child to play basketball, and as long as it does what you want it to do you love it, but when your child stops playing basketball and goes to do something else, you no longer love it and tell it to go back to playing basketball. To confine your attention solely to a single object, such as the breath, is in my opinion extremely unkind to your attention, and thereby arguably yourself. It's like telling...

This blog post comes from a document that is part of my lawsuit against Institute of Mental Health Singapore. As such, that is the perspective this is written from, and I refer to "IMH", which is short for Institute of Mental Health a few times. Mental illness es vs mental health vs emotional well-being What is a mental illness? Google defines it as: “ a health condition causing significant changes in thinking, feeling, mood or behavior, leading to distress and impaired daily functioning in social, work, or family life, ranging from mild issues to severe disorders like depression or anxiety, and can be managed like other medical conditions.” I can poke holes in that and question why significant changes in thinking, feeling, mood, or behavior are a bad thing. These can be great things. I assume that psychiatrists see it as a great thing when their treatment changes a person’s thinking, feeling, mood, and/or behavior in the way that they envision for their patient. Hence, ...